这是为什么呢?美国波士顿大学医学院基因遗传研究所罗伯特•维斯(Robert S. Weiss)认为如果一个人能够很清楚地解释分手失败的原因,那么他就会明白这段失败的感情并不是一个不小心,一个偶然,而是一个必然的结果。也可以说,他找到了问题的症结。这样,如果以后发生同样的问题,他就可以轻松地解决它,避免感情再次失败。
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